To be reasonable

My plan to early-vote Saturday never got off the ground, thanks to insomnia (you’re welcome for not endangering you; I’m a very cranky driver when exhausted). Theoretically, then, this morning I’m resting up from voting Tuesday, doing a late column edit, and hoping that my votes for more reasonable Republicans counted (I didn’t vote in one race because there was no reasonable Republican).

That’s about where we are. Cartoon by Mark Anderson, Andertoons.

I mean, really, reasonableness should count, right? Right???

And yet we know that so often it doesn’t, especially in politics, where the more outrageous often wins the day. I often have to try to convince people that I didn’t write what they think I wrote. (Such as my “strong pro-abortion stance,” according to one Internet commenter who apparently thinks being personally against abortion but unwilling to cut that choice off for others who need it is “pro-abortion.” My exact words: “I personally wouldn’t have an abortion unless circumstances meant that it was the only choice. My feelings and morals don’t mean that someone else can’t have that choice.” It’s especially sad considering that column was about nuance.)

When you have the proof right in front of you of exactly what was said/written, it should be easy. But when you have people who make a sport out of reading into what’s been written something that isn’t there, well, you can sense my frustration. And it’s the same for other writers as well; I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to reject letters because someone said John Brummett or Bradley Gitz or one of our other writers said something they didn’t say (good lord, if Brummett said half the things people think he says, he might not have a job, and might be in trouble with the FBI).

Yeesh. This is way too familiar. Editorial cartoon by Cathy Wilcox.

This is far from unique to me or this paper. People regularly infer things that aren’t there (don’t get me started on them constantly mixing up “imply” [which the writer does] and “infer” [which the reader does]), thanks in large part to confirmation bias.

Confirmation bias is the tendency to seek out only the information that confirms your worldview and ignore or pooh-pooh inconvenient facts. Not only am I unlikely to change the mind of a reader who isn’t open to points of view that may not completely sync with his, but that reader is likely to ascribe far more radical beliefs to me (or any other writer) than I actually have.

Which makes me wonder sometimes why I and others write at all when people will just interpret what we write however they want. Gluttons for punishment, I guess.

Plus I’m nuts, so there’s that.

Data is ripe for cherry-picking! Non Sequitur by Wiley Miller.

Of confirmation bias and motivated reasoning (the natural tendency to cherry-pick and twist facts to fit beliefs), the Farnam Street blog notes:

“Our use of this cognitive shortcut is understandable. Evaluating evidence (especially when it is complicated or unclear) requires a great deal of mental energy. Our brains prefer to take shortcuts. This saves the time needed to make decisions, especially when we’re under pressure. As many evolutionary scientists have pointed out, our minds are unequipped to handle the modern world. For most of human history, people experienced very little new information during their lifetimes. Decisions tended to be survival-based. Now, we are constantly receiving new information and have to make numerous complex choices each day. To stave off [getting overwhelmed], we have a natural tendency to take shortcuts.

“In ‘The Case for Motivated Reasoning,’ Ziva Kunda wrote, ‘we give special weight to information that allows us to come to the conclusion we want to reach.’ Accepting information that confirms our beliefs is easy and requires little mental energy. Contradicting information causes us to shy away, grasping for a reason to discard it.

“In The Little Book of Stupidity, Sia Mohajer wrote: ‘The confirmation bias is so fundamental to your development and your reality that you might not even realize it is happening. We look for evidence that supports our beliefs and opinions about the world but excludes those that run contrary to our own. … In an attempt to simplify the world and make it conform to our expectations, we have been blessed with the gift of cognitive biases.”

Confirmation Bias And the Power of Disconfirming Evidence, Farnam Street blog,

People often “read between the lines” and try to understand what someone actually means, which is fine when it’s someone they know well; they’re far more likely to correctly interpret what Cousin Roy means when he says he loves that Aunt Jen works so hard on her Italian cuisine (maybe she should just order out).

I really love this little guy, my fur-nephew Charlie Kinsey. That doesn’t mean I hate dogs; they’re cool and funny and sweet. But yeah, cats rule and dogs drool.

But c’mon. When something is written in a straightforward manner, just read what’s there. If someone writes “I love cats,” it doesn’t mean that that person hates dogs. If someone says they want to bring back the spirit of compromise to politics, it doesn’t mean they’re a radical leftist (and can we please stop using the word “radical” to refer to anyone slightly to the left or right of you?).

I know. Radical, this idea of taking things at face value.

Anyone can be at the mercy of confirmation bias and motivated reasoning, but in recognizing it, you can fight it.

But on the Internet, you can find just about anything that can shore up your case, so media literacy is important. Matthew Hornsey, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Queensland, told Kirsten Weir of the American Psychological Association, “These are wonderful times for motivated reasoners. The Internet provides an almost infinite number of sources of information from which to choose your preferred reality. There’s an echo chamber out there for everyone.”

There’s always a talking point. Always. Editorial cartoon by Pat Bagley, Salt Lake Tribune.

Stepping out of the chamber is hard. Resolving to forgo cognitive shortcuts and read/listen to only what’s there … that could be harder.

Being reasonable shouldn’t be that hard.

😭 😤😭 😤😭 😤

It’s crazy to me that so many of the people who proclaim that they are adamantly pro-life offer so little (other than thoughts and prayers, anyway) when something like what happened in Uvalde, Texas … or Newtown, Conn. … or Littleton, Colo. or Parkland, Fla., … or Jonesboro, Ark., happens.

You may remember that one of the victims in the Jonesboro shootings in March 1998 at Westside Middle School was my old lab partner in college biology. Shannon Wright was sweet and kind, and gave her life to protect children. I had felt some relief once the school’s name was released and I knew that the son (whom I had “boy-sat” in college) of a friend was safe, but I would soon learn of Shannon’s death.

Students and teachers shouldn’t have to die because we’re so paralyzed with cries of “we have to do something,” “enforce the laws we already have, don’t make new ones,” “criminals don’t follow the law,” and “SHALL NOT be infringed!” Too many politicians are beholden to the NRA and its cash (which is dwindling) and to the idea that the majority of Americans want them to block common-sense gun regulation when it’s just the opposite.

As I write this, not long after returning home after voting, information is still coming in from Texas, but it appears 18 elementary-school children and one teacher are dead. Nineteen lives that didn’t have to end, and the 27th school shooting this year, according to NPR.

Thoughts and prayers are nice and all, but ultimately hollow if we don’t put meaningful action behind them.

We really shouldn’t have to have heavily armed police officers responding to elementary schools. But sure, keep believing that the Second Amendment, unlike every other amendment, is sacrosanct, despite conservative icons like the late Justice Antonin Scalia confirming that it’s not. Image found on Los Angeles Times.

4 thoughts on “To be reasonable

  1. Let me lift two thoughts from the web (authors unknown to me)

    There are people who will trust their teenager to use an assault weapon “responsibly,” but they don’t trust that teenager to read a book.

    Computers now demand that humans prove they are not robots.

    It’s a world gone mad and going madder.


    • A fourteen year old girl or even a sixteen year old girl is not allowed to adopt a child but if that same girl gets pregnant unexpectedly, she is expected to give birth to that child and raise that child instead of getting an abortion or even being allowed to think about abortion.


  2. After reading this article, the lyrics to the song “Nowhere Man” by John Lennon and Paul McCartney are playing inside my head.


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