Those who know me know that few things make me angrier than rudeness (behind people who hurt children, the elderly, disabled or animals). It’s epidemic, almost seeming to be second nature.
A big part of the problem is the sense of entitlement so many people have, along with the apparent belief that only they exist in the world, and I think we have to admit the Internet’s role in this. There are no barriers, no second thoughts, no censors; we just say whatever we’re thinking with no thought of consequences. We fire off snarky comments, get into wars of words with people with whom we disagree, and expect to always get the last word.
For those of us who are too nice for our own good, who will fight for others but not ourselves, it’s especially frustrating. We won’t say what we’re really thinking because our mamas taught us better than that.
We don’t flip off the rude driver turning where we’re walking (in a crosswalk with the right of way, of course) when that driver yells “Move yo chunky ass!” Even when the driver is far from a waif.
Yep, we just take it. We take it when we’re bullied by people who insist that they must have their own way or there will be hell to pay. We take it when politicians refuse to give an inch, insisting that their party’s goals are all that’s important, constituents be damned.
I say we need to go back to that idea. It doesn’t have to be anything big. Open a door for someone. Let someone else have the last piece (it doesn’t matter of what). Pay for the lunch of the person behind you at Wendy’s. Smile at the customer service rep when paying a bill.
On another topic entirely, I loved finding this today. Rick Aschmann, who collects dialects as a hobby, created a map of American English dialects, which he’s been working on for years. On the map, I fall into Inland South for where I grew up and went to college, while where I live now is in a border region, basically an Inland/Lowland South combo (my accent, though, is kind of a mix, owing to the mix of dialects where I grew up and my broadcasting/acting/singing background). You can also record your own voice at the site, which allows Aschmann to map even more dialects.
Okay, what can I say? I love words!
- Not buying Rude (spreadinformation.wordpress.com)
- The Vicious Cycle of Rudeness (mindplatter.wordpress.com)
- On Being Rude (fibercompulsion.wordpress.com)
- Workplace Signs – Need of the ‘Working Hours’ (mydoorsign.com)
- Interactive Map of North American English Dialects (laughingsquid.com)